I think it was because of writing all these blog posts on competing (here and here) and reimagining motherhood (here and here) and I don’t know what happened, but I reconsidered my routine (for the 1059th time).Having faced mom burn out many years ago, I’m SUPER careful to check in with myself on what I need and how packed my schedule is. Honestly, I didn’t think I was even in the yellow for burn out, but and this week I just didn’t.
Here’s what I didn’t do. Almost the entire list.
Stay on social media more than I needed to
Blogged like I was supposed to
Made sure I was home every day when my son came home from school
washed dishes every night
watch TV ( no kidding!)
choose cleaning over listening to my son
keep myself from reaching out to 2 friends when I really needed an ear.
Stay up when my eyes were closing
Reject help from my son to do dishes
Do the mail (okay, Saturday will have to be the day)
Checking in with my son about his homework
Kept his bedtime at 10:30pm when he asked for it to be later
Want to know what happened instead?
coffees with 2 new friends
bought a .com for my book title
took a walk – twice
took time to go into a store (I’m not a shopper)
bought a crepe pan and learned crepes
had eye to eye contact with my son
cried over things that felt unfair in the world
cried over things that felt unfair in my son’s world
cried over the past year in my own world
decided I work best with a marker to look forward to besides dinner (like meeting a friend at some point in the week)
took a bath (just do NOT tell my friend Jen because she will say I told you so).
arranged online interviews
limited social media
dreamed a bit bigger
told 3 new people my dream of a mom ranch
wrote a plan for a podcast
changed son’s bedtime to 11:00 and asked if he wanted it later (thank God he said no)
provided great meals I really wanted to make
decided I don’t like blogging and social media every day, but that I am a crackerjack at getting things out in blocks of time.
My new word is crackerjack.
My new love is 10pm.
And probably most interestingly enough,
woke up wanting the day
I did put this orginally on Facebook here, but I didn’t have room for everything. I realized from that post written at the end of another day where I didn’t, that sometimes we need a little peek into another mom’s life – especially when she throws in the towel and finds the world didn’t cave in.
Here’s what I learned : that mom burn out can happen when the days are too similar, the systems too set, life too handled. I suspected this when I took a few nights and went to bed around 9pm and didn’t go to sleep but just read whatever I wanted to. It changed the next day.
So, here’s to you – the one holding it together and wondering if you should throw in your towel just for the night… you more than deserve it.
And here’s to you- the one who threw in the towel months ago and have found new life.
Kudos and hugs to all. 😉
Vikki, The Mom Whisperer most days